Friendships are an integral part of our lives. No matter what you’re going through, if there’s one right thing about your life, it is probably your friends! Making friends, being crazy and silly together, losing touch with them and making new ones and moving on in life – we’ve all been there, done that. We grow up around friends and yet know only little when it comes to friendships. Here we tell you 22 truths about friendship nobody will ever tell you.
1. It’s not always that you’ll find your best friends by your side. There will be times they’re not around when you need them the most. Sometimes, they may have a genuine reason and other times, they may just be bailing out on you.
2. There are some friends you don’t need to be constantly in touch with. Their friendship isn’t affected by time or distance. Even if it has been years since you last spoke to them, you’ll pick up from where you left. And you’d be surprised to know how well they still know you.
3. No matter how much you’ve invested in your friendship, some friends are always going to be too busy for you. Get the hint.
4. The time you’ve spent with a friend doesn’t always determine how well they know you. Sometimes, you realize the friends you’ve been with all your life don’t even know you and people you’ve just met a week ago understand you like nobody else.
5. Everybody’s insecure about their friendships. Yeah, we’ve all felt ‘left out’ at some point or the other.
6. Your friendships are going to take a backseat the day you enter into a relationship. You might just eventually lose out on some of the most special friends you’ve had if you don’t make it up to them in time.
7. Some friendships are really short-lived. Those freindships just die after a while. And, you can do nothing about it, that’s just how it is. Not all friends are meant to be ‘friends forever’. Cherish it while it lasts.
8. You will grow apart from some friends because you suddenly feel you just cannot relate to them anymore.
9. And some friends will drift away from you too, whether or not you like it.
10. You’re going to make new friends every day in your early 20s but no matter how much you may socialize, you’ll end up with just 2 or 3 real friends. And that’s all you really need.
11. Most friendships break because of the most trivial misunderstandings. Nobody makes an effort to sort it out and the silence worsens it further. Misunderstandings do more harm than you can imagine. Never leave things unsaid.
12. You know your friends aren’t worth keeping when you realize they’re jealous of your success.
13. As you grow up, you’re going to walk down different paths in life. Your friends are going to get more successful, they’re going to get married at a time when you don’t even know what job to take up and there will be a lot that could go wrong in the friendship. And, it’s going to take a lot of effort to make it work.
14. More often than not, friends you fight with the most on the smallest of things are the ones that stay till the end.
15. And there will be those who will seek your friendship only when they need you. They may be fun to hang out with but they’re not gonna stay. They were never here to stay in the first place.
16. Never ignore your real friends for new ones. Your real friends are the ones who will stay with you; everything else will fizzle out in a while.
17. There will come a time when your best friends are going to start making new friends and you’re going to feel jealous, envious and wronged all at the same time. Sometimes, equations change and you will need to accept that you cannot always be as close to someone as you once were. That doesn’t mean you’re not friends anymore, just not as good as you once were, maybe.
18. Not all friendships break because your friend ‘just doesn’t understand’. A lot of times, it is you who is at fault. And unless you realize it, your friends are going to have a hard time sticking around.
19. Every friendship has its ups and downs. Some make it through, some don’t. The ‘difficult phase’ is inevitable. Friends are going to disappoint every now and then and maintaining friendships could sometimes be emotionally exhaustive. You just gotta find the ones worth struggling for.
20. You won’t always get your due. Some friends will make you believe you’re really close but they may not really be emotionally attached to you at all. Some friendships always remain one sided.
21. Whether it is a nasty fight with your parents, a career dilemma, quarter life crisis, or a break up with a girlfriend – your best friend is the person you go to. But what do you do when your friendship with your best friend ends? You’re suddenly all alone. A break up with a best friend hurts much more than a relationship break up.
22. No matter how great your friends may be, there will come a time when you will have to deal with your problems all by yourself, when there will be nobody around to lean on. And for that, you need to start loving yourself and learn how to enjoy being alone. You cannot always depend on friends. Sometimes, you gotta be your own best friend.