The parent-child bond is one of the most complicated relationships ever, especially if you’re an Indian. But it’s also the most important one. We may look like a generation that needs its own ‘space’ but truth be told; there can be no replacement to to our relationship with our parents. And, that’s why we have something to say to every Indian parent out there. DearParents, here are 10 things we want you to know, and understand.
1. We may look like confused souls and we may not have a clue about what we want to be at the moment, but we’ll figure it out, eventually. Everyone does. It will all fall into place. We’ll make something out of our lives and we’ll make you proud – just give us some time and trust.
2. Just because our generation dates more people than you ever thought in your youth, doesn’t mean we’re a bunch of frivolous, materialistic and shallow youngsters. We, too, value relationships just as much as you do, just that we’re not afraid to walk out when things don’t work out.
3. What is different is not necessarily wrong. We may disagree with your set of ethics and morals, but that doesn’t mean we’re uncultured. It just means we have a different set of beliefs. Times change and so does the mindset.
4. Life was hard for you, we agree. But it hasn’t been any easier for us. We may have benefited from your experience and struggle but life is equally difficult for us, in a hundred other ways that you may not have ever experienced.
5. We’re adults too. Yes, our company does play an important role but we don’t get influenced by just about anything and everything happening around us. We have a mind of our own.
6. We may love to party all night or hang out with our friends the whole day, but that doesn’t mean we’re irresponsible. We’re more worries about ourselves, our careers and our savings than anyone else, be assured of that. We can take care of ourselves well.
7. Drinking, partying or wearing certain kind of clothes say nothing about our character. Not everyone who drinks and parties sleeps around. All of us aren’t the same.
8. We may or may not identify with and conform to social norms as easily as you. But that shouldn’t create a rift between us. What should matter is how much we love you, despite all the differences.
9. We cannot be living life on someone else’s experiences. Even though we respect your wisdom and guidance, there are certain things in life we want to figure out on our own, even at the cost of making mistakes. Realizations will come when they will. We don’t intend to disobey you; we’re just trying to live life on our own terms.
10. We do not agree with a lot of things you do, but we don’t expect you to change, and neither should you ask us to wear blinders and think exactly like you. The generation gap may make it hard for you to cope with our lifestyles and beliefs, but all we need is acceptance and trust. That’s all it takes to strengthen the bond.
11. We know there are times when you really want to support our life decisions but don’t, because of the fear of being judged by the society. You may not agree with our decisions but we know, you understand. So, just let go. We’re a team, and who cares what anyone else thinks?
12. However much you may hate to do so, you have to set us free once we come of age. The more obsessive you become about protecting us, more are the chances of us straying and lying to you. The more you try to control someone, the more rebellious they become. Know that there will come a time where we will be taking our own decisions that may or may not comply with your agreement, and that nobody has the control over anyone else’s life.
But, all said and done, you have and will always be the most important part of our lives. No amount of generation gap can weaken this bond!