Okay, let’s face it—life after break up sucks. But, it is nothing like what people keep telling you, or what the films show it to be. Here are 12 ways in which breaks ups are just not what you always imagined them to be.
1. You don’t feel particularly sad or happy or relieved or angry. There’s so much you are feeling, all at once, that there isn’t a single emotion you can put your finger on.
2. The moment right after a break up isn’t really ‘the moment’ your world collapses. It probably even passes before you know it. You don’t start crying immediately. The thought that you’re not going to be with them anymore takes some time to sink in.
3. You don’t stop eating meals or taking calls from friends or stepping out of your house, like they show in the movies. People don’t get to know you’ve broken up just by looking at you. You look just as you looked a day before the break up.
4. You don’t keep looking out of the window of a moving car, or keep staring into the distance when alone, missing them. You do think about them every now and then, but you’re mostly in a state of limbo, fighting the hundred voices in your mind. You’re trying to know what exactly you’re feeling more than anything else.
5. There comes a stage when you want to forget everything about the break up and just get back with them, but you’re never sure if that is because you really want them back or you’re just habitual of having them around all the time. That’s the worst dilemma ever.
6. Break up is not the end of the world. It never is. You think you will be devastated and you probably are, but there are enough distractions to keep you busy. You don’t think about your ex all the time.
7. Of course, there are those extreme moments in your day when you feel you just cannot handle it, when you really want to call her up at the middle of the night. But, those moments pass, and everything is okay, once again.
8. The world doesn’t mourn for you. It is still the same. Neither do you spend all your time listening to soppy break up songs. You still like your pizza with extra cheese and you still go out drinking every weekend.
9. You’d think you’d be free to hook up with strange girls as much as you want after a break up. You can, but it isn’t that easy. Breaking up from a real, serious relationship can be emotionally very taxing. You don’t even feel like meeting new women for some time, let alone, looking for flings. You would much rather want to focus on other things in life for a while.
10. Friends aren’t always the best listeners when it comes to break ups. The topic may not even come up while hanging out with friends. But, on the flipside, by not overanalysing it, they actually make moving on a lot easier. They’re the best distraction.
11. There’s absolutely no certainty whether you would get back together sometime later in the future or not, no matter how much you wish for it. You may, but it is highly unlikely, for life isn’t a Yash Raj film. One of you two might actually move on. Even if it is true love, some relationships probably are short-lived, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Or life might have something completely surprising in store for you. There’s no end to possibilities.
12. Everything around you doesn’t necessarily remind you of them. Being single has its own advantages and they surface much earlier than you expect. Life feels as new and fresh as it seems sad and lonely.
Break up isn’t an end, really. It is, in fact, a new beginning to the adventures you now embark upon in life. Just go with it and everything shall fall into place.